As I interact with the people around me everyday, it has come to my attention that not all are blessed with a positive attitude. Now they will argue different but they do not always hear what is coming from their mouths when they speak to others. Which is the exact reason they do not realize how negative they really are,they do not listen,not to themselves nor to others.They have closed their minds,they know it all,what is best for everyone,and will not admit error even when proof is provided,they can never accept that one may know more than they. These poor people do not realize that their crummy mindset attracts the misfortunes in life,the unnecessary drama most of us try to avoid.

A perfect example,two mechanics,each with their own shop,right next door to each other.Each with equal skills,knowledge and tools to tackle ANY job a car or truck,foreign or domestic.no matter what the problem. One has a driveway full of cars waiting to be repaired with others consistently being dropped off daily,so much work he has a waiting list,and the customers are willing to wait,even though there is a perfectly good,equally experienced mechanic next door with an empty driveway. They prefer to wait! Why do you think this is? Well if you spend time with these men as I have the answer is obvious!

The mechanic with the full drive and worked backed up for days is a positive individual. A people person that speaks kindly to all. A man that always smiles and says kind words to others.Something as simple as “I like you because you make the best cup of coffee in town” or ” I like coming here because you always have a smile!”. Simple things,simple seeds,seeds that can have a huge effect on another.Seeds that can boost one morale and confidence,letting them know they are doing a good job of they are brightening someones day with a simple smile,just a simple smile! This man does not talk down to clients when they bring in their broken car,when thy try to explain the noise they heard ,even if it is obvious to him. He is the expert,he knows they came to him because they know that. He treats them like they are a Mercedes owner even if it is a 30 Volkswagen Bug,he sees no difference,they are there because of his expertise but most of all THEY LIKE HIM! And HIS customers come back again and again and again and they consistently send their friends because they now he will take cars of them equally as well.

Now on the other hand you got the guy next door with the empty drive,well ok he has one car in the drive. But today it is because his dad has control of a fleet of vehicles and he chooses to support his son,can’t blame him there,it is his son. But the fact is he will be very lucky today to have another client as he has a minus tattooed on his forehead! All he has done today is bitch and moan about everything and everyone he has encountered so far today. His friends can not even share good fortune with him because it is just not in him to rejoice with someone and celebrate their good fortune. He always has an ugly negative dig for anything good that is not his own. Have never heard this man utter a positive comment about anything! As a matter of fact he is becoming intolerable to me but I feel I have to get through his thick skull about his negativity or I believe he will eventually lose everything,including his wife! Fact is though he does not get repeat clients mainly because he always talks down to them,his approach is so arrogant I do not see how anyone would allow this guy to work on their cars,even though he is a top mechanic,he is a jerk! You can see right through him when you watch him interact with the counter girls at the coffee shop. You can tell who his faves are,he is sweet to them,showering them with compliments and flirts,but to others he is cold and curt. He does not speak to all nor try to encourage anyone with positive input,because you would believe him to believe he is above all.He truly is a jerk! But he can not help it,he does not have a clue! And his business,his whole life is suffering for it!

A second grade teacher once,when her class was a bit unruly,had them all put their books under their desk and pull out a sheet of paper. The assignment she told them is to look around the room a and write down what it is about every classmate that you like.

The class was abuzz with excitement as they looked around the room to begin their task at hand.

She gathered all the papers and took them home that evening and made a sheet for each student containing all the reasons from each and every classmate as to why they liked him or her.

The next morning the pages were passed to each to see why they were liked by their classmates. The remarks heard ran the gamut from “I didn’t know he/she likes me” to “I didn’t know I was good at that!”.

Many years later one of the classmates was killed in Vietnam. The teacher and many of the classmates came together at the funeral,many for the first time in many,many years. The father approached the teacher and said I want to show you something that my son carried with him at all times,up until the day he died. What he revealed when he unfolded the piece of paper,the teacher recognized immediately,it was the paper she had handed out that day of all the reasons the classmates liked each other. Upon sharing this with the other former classmates,several also stated they still had theirs and one produced it from his wallet on the spot. They all said they had hung on to it for all these years because it made them feel good to look at it,even to this day!

The whole point is,see how something so small can make a huge impact on someones life,one small seed of encouragement,one compliment,one smile,one stroke of human kindness through kind words,can influence a person for a lifetime!

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